The Importance of Self Love

Since time immemorial, poets, gurus, and philosophers have toiled to define the most potent and indispensable word in the human language—LOVE. Some have heralded it as the force that makes the world go ’round. Others have described it in terms of the pain it can cause when it’s not returned. It’s been used to denote the feeling a parent has for her child; that a lover has for their beloved. In truth, we hear about love all the time but don’t discuss as often as we should how important SELF LOVE is and more importantly how it is the foundation for a healthy life, full of self -compassion. When we can establish habits, practices and routines of self- love, we will find ourselves to be more authentic and honest; we will tend to enforce healthy boundaries in relationships; to be grateful and more compassionate.

 

PRACTICE SELF CARE

To begin the journey of self –love, begin by implementing healthy routines for yourself. Be consistent! GO to bed at a decent hour and get 6-8 hours of sleep every night. Establish a physical commitment: like walking 30 minutes a day, or sign up for workout class 3 days a week, stretch when you wake up or practice breathe work. Go grocery shopping and make healthy food choices every Sunday for the week ahead!

Create a routine that works for you and that you will be proud of. And when your head hits the pillow every night, congratulate yourself on how you honored yourself that day, that week, that month etc and see how much better you feel!

 

LEARNING COMPASSION THROUGH AFFIRMATIONS

One of the best methods of silencing the negative voices in our heads is to work with affirmations, especially guided meditations that can be listened to aloud. The gentle words of a healer can land deeply within our consciousness and replace the voices of those that damaged us. Over time, we can’t help but believe the new messages we are absorbing. There are many free apps on our phones, go online and google “guided meditations”, YouTube has tons and there is plenty of literature out here you can use too!

I would suggest looking into the mirror and reciting affirmations is likewise highly effective. Making eye contact with yourself and expressing love, appreciation, and respect may strike some as corny or over-the-top, but if that is your reaction, perhaps it’s time to give it a try. People who love themselves unconditionally can express self-love without making a joke out of it.

Try the following affirmations:

YOU ARE A STRONG AND CAPABLE

YOU ARE LOVABLE PERSON

I DESERVE SELF CARE AND SELF RESPECT

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT

 

RECORD YOUR COMPLIMENTS

Another extremely useful exercise I developed to help clients is called the Compliment Log. It’s a small journal you carry with you to record every nice thing that others say about you or you catch yourself saying to yourself. Being smiled at, invited out, hugged or otherwise included/embraced also counts. If you do this consistently, you will be amazed by the changes in your perception. Suddenly, you may find the world full of benevolence rather than hostility. You will begin to accept your own wonderfulness and own it, no longer able to deny the evidence before you, all of which is attesting to your true value.

 

I have lists of affirmations, more information on self love, self-compassion, stress awareness, and how to create healthy habits in my book, The Rewired Life and its companion The Rewired Life Workbook.

 

 

ERICA SPIEGELMAN is a counselor, consultant, author, and motivational speaker who has made an indelible mark in the field of addiction recovery. She has founded a multi-media health and wellness platform, providing consulting and counseling solutions for clients by providing them with tools on how to reach emotional, mental and physical freedom. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Literature from the University of Arizona and a degree as a California State Certified Drug and Alcohol Counselor (CADAC-II) from University of California, Los Angeles. Erica works with several treatment centers in California, including the Living Rebos Treatment Center, Klean Treatment Center, and Passages Malibu. She is a regular contributor to online health outlets, writes for Maria Shriver, and and hosts her own weekly show Rewired Radio on RadioMD. She is the author of the best-selling book Rewired and her latest book The Rewired Life.

Visit Erica online for resources, signed books, and more: http://ericaspiegelman.com/

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Developed by best-selling fitness author and strength and conditioning expert Mike Volkmar, Strong Legs contains everything you need to know to fine-tune your regimen for the ultimate in lower body fitness. Below, check out Mike’s thoughts on two effective methods to train your lower body.

Last time, I talked about how rotations can be used to switch up your exercise routine and provide a more effective training for your lower body. The second method would be performing your favorite Barbell and Dumbbell exercises in a circuit fashion while the third method would be to DIY/experiment with working backwards and changing a traditional exercise order. See how I recreate Barbell Squat in the following examples via both of these methods. Continue reading

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Developed by best-selling fitness author and strength and conditioning expert Mike Volkmar, this book contains everything you need to know to fine-tune your regimen for the ultimate in lower body fitness. Below, check out Mike’s thoughts on a great method to train your lower body. Continue reading

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Build Full Body Strength with Dumbbells

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Developed by best-selling fitness author and strength and conditioning expert Mike Volkmar, this collection contains workout circuits perfect for every fitness level, from beginner to advanced. Below, check out Mike’s thoughts on building Full Body Strength with only dumbbells. Continue reading

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I view exercise through the prism of motivation and the underlying social relationships which provide purpose for healthy living. The active men over 50 I’ve studied exhibit a strong cognitive connection between their most precious and cherished relationships and their lifestyle. They connect the dots between their social aspirations and their day-to-day attention to health and fitness. Graduations, weddings, travel, retirement and grandchildren form their “why” for healthy living. In my book Crack The Code: 10 Proven Secrets that Motivate Healthy Behavior and Inspire Fulfillment in Men Over 50, I make the case for a strong social platform as a prerequisite for sustaining a healthy lifestyle. Without strong and consistent motivation, the exercise equipment will collect dust in the basement, the gym membership will lapse after little use and those new running shoes will find their way to a back corner of your closet. Continue reading

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“Bench, squat, and deadlift!” I’ll bet that’s what your old high school coach said would make you stronger and faster. Your kid might even be telling you to the same thing. But as a parent, youth coach, and/or high school coach, you need to know that your athletes should not all be doing the same workouts. Some kids mature physically faster; some kids are taller than more most; some Juniors in high school get a late start in the weight room, while some incoming freshman get an early start. So the mantra of “Bench, squat, and deadlift” can no longer be relied on as a one-size-fits-all program. Continue reading