The Importance of Self Love

Since time immemorial, poets, gurus, and philosophers have toiled to define the most potent and indispensable word in the human language—LOVE. Some have heralded it as the force that makes the world go ’round. Others have described it in terms of the pain it can cause when it’s not returned. It’s been used to denote the feeling a parent has for her child; that a lover has for their beloved. In truth, we hear about love all the time but don’t discuss as often as we should how important SELF LOVE is and more importantly how it is the foundation for a healthy life, full of self -compassion. When we can establish habits, practices and routines of self- love, we will find ourselves to be more authentic and honest; we will tend to enforce healthy boundaries in relationships; to be grateful and more compassionate.

 

PRACTICE SELF CARE

To begin the journey of self –love, begin by implementing healthy routines for yourself. Be consistent! GO to bed at a decent hour and get 6-8 hours of sleep every night. Establish a physical commitment: like walking 30 minutes a day, or sign up for workout class 3 days a week, stretch when you wake up or practice breathe work. Go grocery shopping and make healthy food choices every Sunday for the week ahead!

Create a routine that works for you and that you will be proud of. And when your head hits the pillow every night, congratulate yourself on how you honored yourself that day, that week, that month etc and see how much better you feel!

 

LEARNING COMPASSION THROUGH AFFIRMATIONS

One of the best methods of silencing the negative voices in our heads is to work with affirmations, especially guided meditations that can be listened to aloud. The gentle words of a healer can land deeply within our consciousness and replace the voices of those that damaged us. Over time, we can’t help but believe the new messages we are absorbing. There are many free apps on our phones, go online and google “guided meditations”, YouTube has tons and there is plenty of literature out here you can use too!

I would suggest looking into the mirror and reciting affirmations is likewise highly effective. Making eye contact with yourself and expressing love, appreciation, and respect may strike some as corny or over-the-top, but if that is your reaction, perhaps it’s time to give it a try. People who love themselves unconditionally can express self-love without making a joke out of it.

Try the following affirmations:

YOU ARE A STRONG AND CAPABLE

YOU ARE LOVABLE PERSON

I DESERVE SELF CARE AND SELF RESPECT

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT

 

RECORD YOUR COMPLIMENTS

Another extremely useful exercise I developed to help clients is called the Compliment Log. It’s a small journal you carry with you to record every nice thing that others say about you or you catch yourself saying to yourself. Being smiled at, invited out, hugged or otherwise included/embraced also counts. If you do this consistently, you will be amazed by the changes in your perception. Suddenly, you may find the world full of benevolence rather than hostility. You will begin to accept your own wonderfulness and own it, no longer able to deny the evidence before you, all of which is attesting to your true value.

 

I have lists of affirmations, more information on self love, self-compassion, stress awareness, and how to create healthy habits in my book, The Rewired Life and its companion The Rewired Life Workbook.

 

 

ERICA SPIEGELMAN is a counselor, consultant, author, and motivational speaker who has made an indelible mark in the field of addiction recovery. She has founded a multi-media health and wellness platform, providing consulting and counseling solutions for clients by providing them with tools on how to reach emotional, mental and physical freedom. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Literature from the University of Arizona and a degree as a California State Certified Drug and Alcohol Counselor (CADAC-II) from University of California, Los Angeles. Erica works with several treatment centers in California, including the Living Rebos Treatment Center, Klean Treatment Center, and Passages Malibu. She is a regular contributor to online health outlets, writes for Maria Shriver, and and hosts her own weekly show Rewired Radio on RadioMD. She is the author of the best-selling book Rewired and her latest book The Rewired Life.

Visit Erica online for resources, signed books, and more: http://ericaspiegelman.com/

5 Common Obstacles to Getting Fit

Happy New Year! Now that the holidays are over, it’s back to fitness. It’s a new year and this is the year for winning. So instead of reading through an overly-optimistic article on how you can seize the day and excel (commonplace this time of year), let’s examine perhaps where you might have gone wrong and some common mistakes that may be halting your progress. And of course, what you can do to once again repave the road once traveled. Continue reading

Introducing Planes of Motion

As another year comes to a close, and you count the number of cheat meals coinciding with the upcoming holidays, it’s quite often realistic to look ahead to the next year. Okay, maybe you didn’t achieve your physique goals this past year, but you probably still made progress. Was it full-on beast mode? No. But that bench went up. The material around your sleeves is a little snugger. You are in fact in some way better than you were the previous year. Even though these aches and pains do not seem to be going away. And so, this is somewhat of a win. Continue reading

Korean BBQ Beef Tacos Recipe

Looking for something different for dinner? Check out this great recipe from Taco! Taco! Taco! by Sara Haas featuring Korean BBQ!

Have you had Korean BBQ? It’s out of this world! I wanted to emulate the delicious food I’ve experienced with this recipe. This Korean BBQ Beef is my homage to my adoration of Korean BBQ. Continue reading

Exercising with Parkinson's Disease: Benchmark Your Progress

Exercises for Parkinson’s Disease is the complete guide to achieving better health, providing everything from tips on how to structure your day to take full advantage of higher energy periods, to tailor-made workout programs designed to boost mobility and balance.

Author William Smith, MS, wrote Exercises for Parkinson’s Disease to work as an integrated part of any Parkinson’s disease treatment plan, optimizing mobility, increasing strength and minimizing pain, while providing lifestyle tips to keep you motivated and moving forward. Check out his take on using exercise to benchmark one’s progress. Continue reading

Top 5 Unique Indoor Rock Climbing Facilities

Fitness fans who travel for business discovered this phenomenon a while ago; it’s fun to check out new gyms and exercise facilities when you’re on the road. Somewhat complacent with the same layout and gym “culture” of the workout centers they frequent at home, these athletic enthusiasts have discovered seeing how other gyms operate is refreshing, and can even kick-start a workout routine that’s gotten, well… a little bit too routine.

 

Travel industry experts have pegged rock climbing – be it for bouldering or rope climbing – as an emerging travel trend, especially now that the sport has received publicity for its official inclusion at the 2020 Summer Olympics in Tokyo. Climbers are planning trips to visit specific walls and boulders, and others are also taking advantage of the proliferation of climbing gyms that are popping up everywhere – and some are actually planning trips just to visit new facilities. Continue reading

More Ways to Strengthen Your Lower Body

Developed by best-selling fitness author and strength and conditioning expert Mike Volkmar, Strong Legs contains everything you need to know to fine-tune your regimen for the ultimate in lower body fitness. Below, check out Mike’s thoughts on two effective methods to train your lower body.

Last time, I talked about how rotations can be used to switch up your exercise routine and provide a more effective training for your lower body. The second method would be performing your favorite Barbell and Dumbbell exercises in a circuit fashion while the third method would be to DIY/experiment with working backwards and changing a traditional exercise order. See how I recreate Barbell Squat in the following examples via both of these methods. Continue reading

Add Gymnastic Rings to Your Workout Routine

Fitness author and strength and conditioning expert Mike Volkmar believes gymnastic rings should be added as part of one’s workout routine. His new book Gymnastic Rings Workout Handbook contains everything one needs to know about exercising with gym rings to increase strength, improve mobility and build muscle including over 100 workouts. Below, check out Mike’s thoughts on how gym rings can improve your workouts. Continue reading