Connect = Bind Together
The word “Connected” comes from the Latin con (together) and nectere (bind). One definition is [associate or relate (something) in some respect], and another is [bring together or into contact so that a real or notional link is established.]. In everyday usage, connected simply means reachable, connected to the internet.
But consider that… when we connect digitally, we inevitably disconnect from something else.
Common examples of disconnection when connecting digitally are e.g. to scroll on your phone when talking to someone; multitasking on your laptop in a meeting; using digital devices in nature; having headphones in when checking out at the grocery store.
Take a moment to think of which situations you disconnect from and miss out on when connecting digitally.
Consequences of ubiquitous “connectivity”
While the examples above might not seem much, research suggests that the impact can be significant on our focus, well-being and relationships.
When we connect digitally in the moment, conversation quality drops, our attention is splintered, and even restorative moments like being in nature can lose their benefit. Small signals matter too: a phone on the table can reduce felt closeness, and headphones can become a social barrier that creates uncertainty—“Do they hear me? Am I interrupting?” Over time, these tiny disconnections add up, quietly weakening trust, focus, and relationships.
And those are just the known consequences. Think of all the missed opportunities, conversations, friendships, creative ideas, that could have happened had we disconnected to connect.
Disconnecting to connect
Just like many of us get in similar situations to the ones mentioned above, there are plenty of possibilities everyday to actively connect with life around you. Everything starts with awareness and reflection. So find those moments when you habitually would be connected digitally, and challenge yourself not to. And instead of seeing it as a restriction or something you give up, think of what you gain. Maybe not straight away, but over time this can truly have a life changing effect. For inspiration, have a look at the original Look Up video, and the sequel 10 years after.
Personally, I love disconnecting to connect. I am that weird guy who makes eye contact and says “hi” to the bus driver, who smiles at a stranger walking by, who leaves my phone when going out for a jog or with friends. But going out skiing alone I brought it for safety, and could not help but take a photo of this commercial sign in the middle of a Swedish forest, with the text saying “5G out here in nature. That´s Telia” (see photo).
But do we really need 5G out there in nature?
Or do we need to disconnect to connect?
I’m sharing regularly on the topic of how technology is impacting our lives and how to find a better balance. Check out this earlier post for a great place to start your journey towards tech-life balance as well as my book Tech-Life Balance: 101 Ways to Thrive in a Digital World.
Taíno Bendz is the founder of Phone Free Day and his own consulting business, and his message on mindful and intentional technology usage has reached and inspired hundreds of thousands of people around the world. He is a public speaker, workshop facilitator, and conducts research on digital technology usage. Taíno holds a Master’s Degree in Industrial Engineering and Management and has spent the last 10 years working in technology sectors such as renewable energy, healthcare IT, and software automation. He currently lives in Sweden with his family. He is the author of Tech-Life Balance.
